The Other Side of Fear

I bought a car by myself using my own credit score and income. This time last year I was struggling to pay bills and barely finding a reason to get out of bed living in an apartment that had a pest problem that still gives me PTSD whenever I see anything that crawls. This time …

Grief in process

Grief is a weird thing. Adulting is a weird thing. By weird, I really mean completely uncomfortable. Many times when we talk about adulting we talk about the various new responsibilities that we have to face as we continue to grow older and hopefully mature. I feel like we rarely discuss how in the process …

Let’s Talk About Sex

I don’t remember how I was introduced to sex, but it entered my life at a very young age. I have memories of exploring my body by myself and with a couple of friends in elementary school. My mom found out because I was caught exploring with a friend. She was concerned because I couldn’t …

Stella’s Summer Peach

Happy Summer! Fun fact about me is that I loveeee a good cocktail and have dreams of hosting all of the dope intimate house parties feature amazing homemade drinks and food. These parties will feature sensational craft cocktails and chartreuse boards. I look forward to the world being a safe place again for gatherings, but …

My Happy Place

Recently while recapping season 5 of HBO Insecure my friends and I were discussing our group dynamics. We questioned whether we were similar to the main characters Issa, Molly, Kelli, and Tiffany in how they show up (and don’t show up) for one another. With everyone going through their own life evolutions-Molly entering a serious …

Hair Acceptance

The other day Amara and I were watching The Little Mermaid series cause she loves Mermaids. I was intentional though and made sure we watched Season 2 Episode 6 because it has a mermaid of color, Gabriela. The premise of the episode is that both girls are hoping to have something about themselves changed by …

Motherhood right now…

I’ve been surrounded by strong black women all my life. I was raised by a strong black woman. At times I resented my mother for the moments she chose herself rather than choosing me or my brother. Through my childlike eyes, she was being selfish and not choosing the family. All of her decisions should …

Being Intentional

My husband is in the United States Air Force which means we have to move around and honestly, I’m learning that not all of the bases are that glamorous and the moving around aspect of this lifestyle can be real shitty and stressful. While I was pregnant with Amara my hormones and fear paralyzed me …

1st year of Motherhood Reflections

Motherhood is one crazy ass roller coaster ride!! Anyone who knows me knows that there wasn’t a sturdy maternal bone in my body until I was about 6months into my pregnancy with Amara. Before that the running joke when I would want to be around small children or do things for kids it was considered …